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Retirement Planning – The Emotional Part

Saturday, February 20th, 2010

From Friday's Globe and Mail

How to Make Peace  With Life After Work

Think retirement and what comes to mind? For most, dollar figures.

But equally as important as a retirement financial plan, experts say, is the emotional aspect of discontinuing work.

Addressing the emotional side starts with accepting the sense of loss that comes with retirement, says Washington, D.C.-based Olivia Mellan, a money coach, psychotherapist and the author of five books, including Money Harmony.

"We're not encouraged to think about the emotional part," she says. "There's a certain kind of surrender and letting go that has to happen. You have to be at peace with it."

 

If you want a dream to come true, you need a plan.— Patrice Delisle, National Bank of Canada

 

A first step down this road is making sure life after work is just as meaningful as it was before retirement.

"People don't think enough about how to keep themselves active and excited in retirement," says Rick Robertson, an associate finance professor at the Richard Ivey School of Business at the University of Western Ontario. "You ask them, 'What are you going to do?' And they say, 'Well, I'd love to take a trip to Europe.' Okay, now we've dealt with one month of your retirement. How are you going to fill up all the days after that?"

Patrice Delisle, retirement strategy director with the National Bank of Canada in Montreal, agrees that considering what life will look life after work is crucial. "If you want a dream to come true, you need a plan," he says.

"A retirement can last as long as 30 years," he says. "That may be almost as long as a person's years at work. So you need to have dreams and goals you want to achieve. You don't want to be left spending your days just sitting around in the basement."

A National Bank survey found that only 17 per cent of Canadians have a comprehensive retirement plan. "We have to ask, why will people take hours to plan a yearly trip down south, but then not even half an hour to plan for a retirement that will take 30 years?" he says. "Retirement planning is not sexy and that's why

Mr. Delisle suggests writing down goals as step one, an exercise the bank's advisers go through with retirees.

Actually taking a few weekends while you're still working and trying some of the activities you're considering post-retirement – whether it be learning a new sport, writing a novel or volunteering – is a good gauge for what to expect when the paycheques stop coming.

"Try some of these behaviours in little pieces and see how it feels," Ms. Mellan says. Like Mr. Delisle, she subscribes to the strategy of putting it in writing but suggests goal setting as a three-time exercise. "The first list of goals is not one you can trust," she says. "You need to see which items come up again and again."

A roadblock many retirees face is agreeing with their partner on how to spend their retirement days. "One wants to sell the house and the other feels rooted to the house, one wants to travel and the other wants to stay home and be with the grandkids," Ms. Mellan says. Prof. Robertson encourages early and ongoing discussion, and for couples who just can't meet halfway, Ms. Mellan suggests couples' therapy.

Both a financial plan and a road map of what you want to do with those funds is essential, experts agree. But so is flexibility. "Nothing happens the way you think it will," Ms. Mellan says. For example, debilitating health conditions or the death of a spouse can derail the most carefully thought-out plans. "You have to allow yourself to go through a mourning process, and then look for new attainable goals," she says. we've tried to put a human tou

Another emotional struggle related to retirement is the fear of outliving funds. And with people living longer than ever before, it's a valid concern. "You'll often hear older people say they can't do things like travel because they don't want to spend their money," he says. "They'll say, 'I have to keep it until later in case I live a long time.' "

Starting to save early is the best way to ensure your money grows sufficiently. And be sure to take government support into account, such as the Old Age Pension and the Canada Pension Plan. "They are indexed at the rate of inflation and are paid as long as you live," Prof. Robertson says.

While financial security in retirement is indisputably the priority, underspending can be just as damaging as overspending when it means the difference between a fulfilling retirement and a meaningless one.

"The most important thing anyone can think about when retiring is how important it is to have a reason to get up every day and be excited," Prof. Robertson says. 

 

 

Retirement Income – How Much Is Enough?

Saturday, February 6th, 2010

A recent article published in the Ottawa Citizen (Making Retirement Dreams Come True – Saturday February 6, 2006 – Wealthy Boomer, Jonathan Chevreau) and also in the Financial Post, discusses a book entitled “Retirement Rocks!” (subtitled Canadian Boomers Invest in Life).  The article provides some interesting information for Boomers to consider.

One of the most interesting points raised in the article, and a point I’ve often considered, pertains to “how much is enough?”.  The couple who wrote the book believe that once debts are eliminated and kids launched, retirees can live on 50% or less of what they earned in their working years.  One of the authors was a financial advisor and shares a more detailed perspective of this 50% or less view – a good guideline is 20 times what you spend in a year, assuming you plan to live 30 years in retirement and die broke.

How does that translate into some real numbers……if you were use to living on $50K a year, you would need $1 million, if you were use to living on $100K a year, then you would need $2 million.  The article goes onto say that if you wish to leave an estate, then you want 25 times your annual spending limit.

Another interesting point noted in the article is that working part time in retirement can make a huge difference to retirement cash flow.  For every $1K you earn per month, you’ll need $200K to $250K less in your retirement pot.

The article also notes lifestyle questions – imagine three lifestyles: a bare bones lifestyle that includes Kraft Dinner and cable TV; a lavish lifestyle of foreign travel and dining out; and one between these two extremes.  When asked, most Boomers pick the latter as their dream.  All of this leads to the need for Boomers to do more retirement planning in advance of leaving full time employment and seriously considering whether working part time at something you like to do should be in your future.

Other lifepast50 posts contain information related to this and should be read in conjunction with this post – check out the related posts.

Retired Couples – shared retirement vision?

Boomers Next Stage – Transition Period?

Retired Couples – shared retirement vision?

Friday, January 29th, 2010

A recent poll examining the attitudes and behaviours of 1,002 retired Canadians, age 55+ which included 746 retirees who are married or in a common-law relationship conducted in January 2010 by Angus Reid showed that 51% of Canadian retirees indicated that they had no idea, or only a vague idea, of what they wanted in their retirement.  The poll also indicated that 51% of those Canadian retirees that were married or in a common law relationship had the same / shared vision for their retirement as their partner.

This result should cause some pause for thought.  What retirement vision do you have and is it shared by your partner?

A recent article published in the Ottawa Citizen and Financial Post on Friday, January 29, 2010 entitled “Couples should have the same retirement ideas”, provides additional details regarding the poll and also identifies additional reading and support tools that couples can pursue.  Retirement planning should include establishing an understanding of what you would like to do together and also recognizing that your vision will evolve over time.  The article encourages couples to tackle the retirement vision discussion and not to avoid it.

Another interesting poll result was that 34% of retired couples say they are closer than ever because they can spend more time together but 19% say the hardest thing about adjusting to retired life is not being able to do all the things they use to do as a result of a reduced income.

Boomers Next Stage – Transition Period?

Wednesday, December 30th, 2009

A recent article published in the Ottawa Citizen and Financial Post (Saturday, December 26, 2009) by Jonathan Chevreau (Wealthy Boomer) discusses the fact that the decade we are about to complete will be the last decade many boomers will work as full time salaried employees.

The first wave of Baby Boomers born in the 1945/46 era will hit the traditional retirement age of 65 in 2010 and 2011 with the rest of the Boomers born in the 50’s reaching the traditional retirement age sometime before the end of 2020.  According to Canada’s Urban Futures Institute, 425,000 Canadians will retire each year by the time the end of 2020 appears.

The article references a BMO report that thinks the word “retirement” should be retired.  That report, issued by the BMO Retirement Institute in April 2009, found that the 2008 market crash caused Canadian Baby Boomers to revise their “retire by” plans.  A previous BMO study, from 3 years earlier, found most Canadian Boomers planned to work in some capacity after traditional retirement, with the top reasons being “to stay mentally active” and to “stay in touch with people”.  In the earlier study, money placed 3rd.  With the current report, money moved up to 1st as more than 80% of respondents cited the need to make money in retirement or semi-retirement.  Things have changed for those Canadians who aren’t lucky enough to have one of the gold plated defined benefit retirement plans at their disposal.

Boomers are entering a transition period – similar in nature to what Boomers have experienced if they underwent career changes during their full-time working life.  An opportunity to pursue other interests while you transition, which might provide Boomers with the opportunity to make some money on the side without the pressure of a demanding full-time salary job.

The article also points readers to a BMO online “transition calculator”.  You can find it by Googling “Retirement Your Way”.  The calculator will show the impact on savings if you work past the traditional age of 65 or if you opt to work part time during a multi-year transition period as you move from full time employment to full time leisure.  Sounds like a potentially useful tool.

Taking on part time project related work that could produce income in the $40K to $80K should be of interest to many Boomers who want to transition more slowly before getting into full-time leisure mode.  A interesting pursuit to me.

The author also goes on to say that semi-retired Boomers can accomplish a lot during this transition period and he is expecting many great things to appear.

Good to Go? Do you have enough tucked away for your future retirement.

Monday, August 24th, 2009

An article published in the Ottawa Citizen and the Financial Post on Saturday, August 22nd by Jonathan Chevreau (Wealthy Boomer) should be read by all.  I’m sure we are all wondering, given the recent economic downturn whether we have enough tucked away for the future.  The findings noted as part of the headlines in the newspaper article is “Most Boomers’ retirement plans going nowhere”……this is what caught my interest.

The article discusses a forthcoming book, unveiling the Retirement Myth by Jim Otar, which says most baby boomers have not saved enough to retire comfortably and should plan to remain in the workforce quite a bit longer.

The author’s background is engineering and he provides this perspective in his book regarding his views on boomers preparedness for retirement.  One graphic noted in the newspaper articles discusses a tower designed for an average wind speed of 6 miles per hour crumbling under a 100mph wind speed and the author noting that based on good engineering, you would never design anything for the average…..you would design for the worst and then some.  This philosophy is the one taken by the author regarding retirement plans – it is wise to design your retirement plan not for average but for adverse conditions.

The book will be published in the fall.  You can download a free trial version at www.retirementoptimizer.com from now until August 31st.  The free trial version is an Excel spreadsheet with restrictions – parameters are fixed.  You can purchase a user license which allows you to change the locked parameters should you so wish.

As well you can see a video interview with the author at www.financialpost.com – find the Wealthy Boomer section and look for the various interviews.

Keeping Canada Young – Something We Want

Wednesday, July 8th, 2009

A recent publication from the C.D. Howe Institute entitled “Faster, Younger, Richer? The Fond Hope and Sobering Reality of Immigration’s Impact on Canada’s Demographic and Economic Future”, presented a number of interesting points that members of the Canadian boomer generation should be aware of.   You can view the report at the C. D. Howe website (www.cdhowe.org).

The report’s focus is clearly on immigration and the demographic challenges facing Canada – basically a slow growing and aging population.  At the same time the report highlights some issues that should be of concern because it may impact the Canadian boomer generation directly – namely our desire to maintain and enhance our living standards.

One element of the report of interest to boomers is the Old-age Dependency ratio (OAD).  This is the ratio of Canadians aged 65 or greater compared to Canadians aged 18 to 64.  The OAD has been rising since 1971 and will enter a period of steeper increases around 2012 as more boomers pass the age of 65.  This shouldn’t be a surprise as we all should be aware of the fact that there is a boomer bubble – a large percentage of the Canadian population are baby boomers and this group is fast approaching the age of 65.  It is commonly believed that the higher the OAD ratio, the greater stress is placed on the generations below to support a large older generation.  This will no doubt impact many aspects of the boomer generation – fewer Canadians supporting more older Canadians could result in less for all across the country……lower economic growth, fewer social benefits, etc., thus impacting many things we have become accustomed to and expect to be there for us boomers.

The report presents a case for major policy reforms to mitigate the impact of the slower growing and aging population.  We can’t rely on immigration to bring in enough people to sustain our expected Canadian lifestyle and fully support our aging population.  The report indicates that these policy changes may have more impact than simply increasing immigration.  The changes to be made include:

  • postpone retirement to age 70
  • increased fertility, at least to the replacement level
  • boost productivity growth

Impacts on the Canadian boomer generation ………  we may have to work longer in full time or part time capacities, we may have more grandchildren and/or great-grandchildren if fertility rates increase, we have to produce more output per workforce member ……… each of these will directly affect us as we age.  We will have to wait to see what these impacts may be but Canadians clearly have some issues to deal with, and the baby boomers specifically have some thinking to do.

There is a benefit to all Canadians in keeping Canada young.

Boomer Chest Pain

Monday, June 29th, 2009

Maybe the health-care system should coin a name for it: the baby boomer special.

In the past few weeks, several people I know, including, on separate occasions, both my husband and myself, have visited hospital emergency rooms because of chest pains and other symptoms that suggested a possible heart attack (instead of, say, indigestion, stress and unpaid bills).

My troubled-heart excursion took place on a sunny Sunday. After explaining that I felt alternately a heaviness in my chest and heart palpitations, I was whisked through an EKG, blood work and a chest X-ray. Three hours later, the doctor deemed my heart “perfect.”

That should have been reassuring except, of course, for all those stories you hear in which someone is pronounced “fit as a fiddle” and dies an hour later on the golf course. (Thank God I don’t golf.) Finally, though, after the doctor added “feel free to come back if you have these symptoms again,” I went home, relieved. She also told me to drink less coffee.

The next visit, a few weeks later, involved my reasonably fit husband, who woke up for the second morning in a row with chest pain and shortness of breath. His visit lasted 10 hours at a downtown hospital and, after initially being cleared by the same diagnostic procedures, he was told to get dressed and wait six more hours in the TV lounge for a second blood test to confirm there had been no heart damage.

To avoid going stir crazy – and with the doctor’s awareness – we finally went for a stroll and walked back through the Bay, where I persuaded my husband to buy a very nice orange polo shirt on sale for 20 bucks. We were both appalled and amused that we were shopping in the middle of a possible heart attack.

Again, all turned out well – we even spent the last hour chatting about Iranian politics with a fellow boomer who was also there for chest pains. He was cleared for takeoff around the same time my husband was. The two men were told to follow up with their GPs, take an aspirin a day as an extra precaution to avoid blood clots, and get a stress test.

Here’s the issue: There’s been so much good public education about the possible signs of a heart attack that it seems many of us are taking all our twinges, well, to heart. But especially at a time when the overall statistics on heart disease show a marked decrease in heart-related deaths, are we overreacting and needlessly overloading the system?

I called a friend who is chief of medicine at a Toronto hospital to ask if we’d done the right thing, and I couldn’t even finish my question before he answered: “Yes” Is there ever a time to stay home ? “No”

“People die staying at home thinking they have heartburn,” said my friend. “You can’t play doctor , you will be wrong. You don’t have the tools or the objectivity. If it’s heartburn, c’est la vie.”

Of course hospitals take middle-aged chest pain seriously – they play the numbers game, and every statistic shows that as you grow older your chances of heart disease or a sudden heart attack increase. Just two generations ago, my paternal relatives were dropping dead in their 50s. My father died relatively young of a heart attack. So I’m glad to see that after much re-education, the medical profession is starting to treat women as aggressively as men when it comes to heart disease. Good thing, given the news this week that, for the first time, more Canadian women are dying of cardiovascular disease than men.

Calgary cardiologist Eldon Smith, a former dean of medicine at the University of Calgary, wasn’t all that reassuring when I spoke to him about baby boomers and chest pains. Diagnosing heart disease is such an inexact science, he told me, that “cardiologists can find no evidence of heart disease and a patient can still die within two months.” Oh, great.

As for those stress tests – I had one and aced it – Dr. Smith says he has heard of doctors who gave patients full cardio workups, including a stress test, declared them fine “and the patient dies before leaving the laboratory.” Stop, Doc, you’re killing me.

Of course, there are facts that will tell the examining doctor a lot, including what you were doing when you first felt the pain. “If you were walking quickly uphill and the pain was there, but it subsided when you stopped, that’s pretty good evidence” that there may be underlying heart problems, Dr. Smith said.

He recently led a steering committee responsible for developing a new strategy to fight heart disease in Canada, and is more interested in drumming heart-healthy lifestyle practices into all of us, including being physically active, not smoking, maintaining a good weight, eating fruits and vegetables and less salt, regularly checking cholesterol levels, and – if you’re over 50 – taking an aspirin a day.

Okay. We can do all that. But because there is nothing more anxiety-provoking than thinking your heart is about to crash, we may be back in the emergency ward again. The most reassuring thing of all is to know we will be taken seriously.

In the meantime, it’s back to indigestion, stress and those unpaid bills.

Article by Judith Timson first published in the Globe and Mail on June 27, 2009.

Boomers Not Aging Gracefully

Monday, June 1st, 2009

An article published in the Ottawa Citizen (June 1, 2009) contends that baby boomers are drifting into old age with poor eating habits, too little exercise and decimated savings as quoted by the CEO of the International Longevity Center (www.ilcusa.org). This organization also indicates that there is a shortage of geriatricians and caregivers which means that society is unprepared for the aging population.

In a report published by the Interntional Longevity Center entitled "The Future of Living: Independently", boomers are urged to plan ahead for old age.  Boomers are encouraged to establish support systems by "keeping engaged, active and socially connected through pleasureable and meaningful activities like volunteering" and living in communities that make this possible.  Boomers are also encouraged to "think strategically about access to health care" and use new technologies to prevent isolation and enhance safety.

The article also talks about obesity with predictions that obesity is on the verge of causing a decline in life expectancy in our society – impacting boomers and generations behind the boomers.

The article carries on to state that we are approaching a point in time in human history where there will be a shift in global age structure – rise in life expectancy combined with falling fertility rates will leave societies with more older members than younger members – a different circumstance than the human population has experienced across human history.  With current life expectancy for Canadians at 82.5 years for women and 77.7 for men (Statistics Canada), Canadian society will experience this as soon as 2015.   By 2015 there will be more people in Canada over 65 than under 15 (based upon Statistics Canada’s most recent population projections) and the number of seniors will double in the next 25 years.

In a related article in the Ottawa Citizen on June 1, 2009, Canada is facing a serious eldercare crunch.  Government policy makers need to keep Canada’s aging population in mind so that government controlled infrastructure, policies, plans and resources can be designed to better support the aging population.  The article quotes a Carleton University researcher who states that investing in services for seniors now will dramatically cut costs to taxpayers later on.  Another interesting point in this article was that research survey results indicate that seniors would prefer to spend their final years at home, favouring help form formal services over family care.

The two articles present similar information.  Refer to the articles through these links…..Baby boomers aren’t aging gracefully, experts warn……and…….Canada faces elderly care crisis: researcher.

What could this mean to boomers?  The statistics indicate facts we boomers have known for a while.  Combine this with the fact that studies show our society isn’t fully prepared for what the statistics show and boomers may have some serious issues to contend with as we age closer to the Canadian life expectancy norms.  Taking better care of yourself may lead to a longer life but if individuals aren’t prepared to appropriately take care of themselves and society lacks the means to deal with an aging population, then where could that leave us boomers.   Some interesting points to consider.

Lane@lifepast50

 

Improve your aging brain

Sunday, April 19th, 2009

Do you want to remember people’s names or where you put your keys. Personally, I’d like to be able to read Stephen Hocking’s theories and actually understand them. I (Tony Almonte) recently read a book that should be of interest to all us LifePast50 members. Of particular note is that even as we get old, we can rewire our brain and improve that vital organ’s use.

Book review by Jessica Warner as published on April 7, 2007 in the Globe and Mail

The Brain That Changes Itself:
Stories of Personal Triumph
From the Frontiers of Brain Science

By Norman Doidge, Viking Press

It takes a rare talent to explain science to the rest of us. Oliver Sacks is a master at this. So was the late Stephen Jay Gould. A case can be made for John Emsley, one-time science writer in residence at Cambridge, and author, most recently, of Better Looking, Better Living, Better Loving: How Chemistry Can Help You Achieve Life’s Goals (2007).

And now there is Norman Doidge, a psychiatrist who divides his time between Columbia University and the University of Toronto. Four years ago, Doidge set himself the most cerebral of tasks: to understand a concept called neuroplasticity. He immersed himself in the literature, interviewed the leading researchers in the field, and sat down and talked with the people who have benefited from their discoveries. How he found the time, I do not know.

What makes neuroplasticity so exciting is that it completely upends how we look at the brain. It says that the brain, far from being a collection of specialized parts, each fixed in its location and function, is in fact a dynamic organ, one that can rewire and rearrange itself as the need arises. That need can arise when the brain is physically damaged, as it is by a stroke, or simply when it is allowed to go to seed, as it has in my case.

It is an insight from which all of us can benefit. People with severe afflictions — strokes, cerebral palsy, schizophrenia, learning disabilities, obsessive compulsive disorders and the like — are the most obvious candidates, but who among us would not like to tack on a few IQ points or improve our memories?

To benefit from a concept, one must first grasp it, and that is what makes The Brain That Changes Itself such a terrific book. You don’t have to be a brain surgeon to read it — just a person with a curious mind. Doidge is the best possible guide. He has a fluent and unassuming style, and is able to explain difficult concepts without talking down to his readers. These qualities are in short supply among academics, and for both, Doidge is to be warmly commended.

The case study is the psychiatric literary genre par excellence, and Doidge does not disappoint. There is a woman who manages quite well on just half a brain, an eye surgeon who made a remarkable recovery from a severe stroke, a seven-year-old who had to be taught how to hear pitch, an eight-year-old girl whose autism was holding her back from learning how to speak. Their stories are truly inspirational, and Doidge tells them with great compassion and sensitivity.

The descriptions of individual scientists are less felicitous. They talk excitedly (that is because they are always in the grip of an idea). They do eccentric (but harmless) things like paying tolls when they don’t have to. One “radiates a serious playfulness”; another is “obviously cerebral but radiates a boyish warmth toward his wife”; yet another dictates ideas “into his cell phone, in his crackling voice.” Each, in short, is as much a hero as a cliché, a loveable variant of the absent-minded professor.

There is nothing wrong with putting a face to science. My bet is that most readers will warm to this device. But it skirts the larger question of why scientific paradigms change in the first place. Because that is exactly what has happened in the case of neuroplasticity. A scientific revolution (Thomas Kuhn’s famous phrase) has taken place: Where people once thought of the brain as a fixed system, now they think of it as an open system.

I have no idea how this happened. I have a sneaking suspicion that William James, that subtlest of American philosophers, had a hand in it. One cannot read his Principles of Psychology (1890) without being struck by his innate grasp of neuroplasticity: “Experience is remolding us every moment,” “the brain-redistributions are in infinite variety” and so on.

That, however, is the subject for another book. I hope that it is Doidge who writes it because he is, as I have already said, a top-notch writer.

On a guilt trip called retirement

Monday, March 23rd, 2009

On a guilt trip called retirement
‘What do you do with all your time?’ they ask. It took a while to feel good about not working
BRUCE BARNETT

As published in the Globe and Mail – March 23, 2009

At 65, I entered the unknown world of retirement with trepidation.

I had concerns about finances, even though I was retiring with a fairly good pension and we were mortgage free.

I was also more than a little concerned about being unemployed. Since I began working at 15, I had been out of work just a few months in those 50 long years, which in retrospect seemed to fly by.

For five decades I had been a contributor to society in many places of employment on many career paths. After two years of odd jobs, I began a five-year stint with the Royal Canadian Navy as an able seaman/radar plotter, sailing on three destroyers including Canada’s most famous warship, HMCS Haida.

 In my last position, I worked for 27 years with the city’s public library department as a senior manager responsible for construction and building operations.

Now, here I was on the dole, so to speak. I was a taker, not a contributor, and I didn’t feel all that good about it.

I never thought about retirement until I arrived at my 60th birthday and saw light at the end of the tunnel. Once I started thinking about it, I became a bit obsessed. I thought of doing all those things I had never had time for while I was working – Caribbean vacations, cruises, wintering in the southern states.

I am now 67 and have been retired almost two years. In that time, my wife and I have enjoyed three Caribbean vacations and a Mediterranean cruise, and we are preparing for a trip to Florida in early April. I also went golfing with friends in Myrtle Beach.

I should have been overjoyed at my great fortune – my wife and I have survived to this age in good health, with enough finances to live some of our dreams – and I would have been, if it weren’t for a wretched feeling of guilt.

I wasn’t prepared for the guilt that hit me out of nowhere upon receipt of my first pension cheque. I didn’t acquire this feeling by myself – a great number of people have contributed to my low self-esteem.

Once I retired, many people asked me what I intended to do now that I had left my place of employment. I informed these inquisitors that I was enjoying my retirement and my plan was to continue to do so. The next question was invariably, “What do you do with all your time?” They would follow that up with, “I’d be bored stiff if I didn’t work.”

Some people ask me if I am doing any consulting, or if I am working part-time at something outside my area of expertise. When I respond that I don’t work at anything full-time, part-time or any time, my comments are usually met with a scowling face and the comment, “I don’t know how you do it.”

I try to explain that I do it very well. I am quite good at retirement, in fact. I have a social life with many lunches and dinners out. I play a lot of golf in the summertime and vacation in warmer climates in the winter. I now have time to spend with my four grandchildren when I choose to (although my children would say I don’t do enough of that). I read, visit places of culture and do a little writing now and then. Frankly, I don’t have enough time for a job.

My interrogators meet this explanation with something akin to, “Well, I do all that and still work.”

Five days a week at 7:30 a.m., I attend a fitness club for a workout with cardio machines and free weights, and some socializing. Most members are there to work out before heading off to their places of employment. When I see people older than me donning their business attire, preparing to head out into the world of commerce, my guilt is magnified.

One day I was talking to a fellow member whom I had just met. He asked me if I was retired and I said I was. He appeared to be somewhat older than me so I asked if he was retired.

He surprised me by saying, “No, but I promised my wife that I would quit working after 19 more years.”

“Nineteen years?” I asked.

“I’m 81 now,” he said.

I muttered something congratulatory and skulked away.

It took a while for my feelings to change. I have learned to appreciate my fortunate lot in life and enjoy my retirement guilt-free. I was lucky to have been employed for 50 years, and to work any longer would be unfair to those who are now seeking employment.

I think I would feel much guiltier working in a position that could go to a younger person raising a family. I reason that my actions are even somewhat altruistic.

So to all my interrogators of substantial means who are of retirement age and still employed, I say, “I don’t know how you do it.”